The Trouble with Midges….

Many years ago, my husband was camping in Scotland in a spot notorious for midges. He was bitten and the bite became infected. He left the camp to go walking with a friend and as the infection became worse and his leg became sorer, he began to limp. Over time, this caused an imbalance in his posture, searing pain and a slipped disc.

So, a small problem, resulting in adaptations, led to complete immobility and the need for treatment.

This to me is a picture of the difficulties which can happen in families.

For example, Esther and James sought help with their 6-year-old son Michael, who was having terrible tantrums.

The couple had had difficulties ever since his birth, as Esther was preoccupied with him to the exclusion of her husband. His sense of being left out, tied in with the financial demands of adding a child to the family, meant that he withdrew somewhat and worked longer hours.

When Michael’s behaviour became so bad that it was socially unacceptable, the couple had lost their ability to work together on the problems and found themselves constantly arguing.

So, the Problem – coping with a new baby in the couple relationship

Led to the Adaptation- mum becomes preoccupied and dad withdraws

Resulting in Immobility at a later time – the child is excluded from school, and the couple does not know what to do – enter the family therapist.

The family therapist does not look at the child in isolation, but brings the family together to look at what is going on between them and works with them to find solutions.

Clip Art / mosquitos ( = cartoon hand spraying insects)